Stop Light Green,Yellow and Red

Just like a stop light we use when we drive we sometimes need to stop ourselves when we meet someone new because there are times we fall in a trap and we are not sure if that person we have just met is someone you want to hold on too or just let go.

In every stop light there is a green to go which means to keep moving on in a friendship that might turn on to a relationship as a boyfriend and girlfriend.

When some boundaries begin to interfere with each other we come across a yellow light which represent us to slow down and test the water to see if this person is really who he/she is because we are afraid to get hurt all over again.

There is a person who judges you the way you are and complains who you have become you tend to slow down to feel like there will be something you will not get along with each other as you keep pulling away from him/her.

You have figured everything out and you are really not meant to be as a friend and toward a relationship with one another the light becomes red to stop you starting more before it becomes too serious with each other.

I have notice you meet a lot of new friends and old friend you have known for so many years but when your life has changed through the years people start the question you and who you we’re before in the past.

Sometimes people also compare you from their past relationship as well want you to change the person they feel to want to control your life.

What happens to your status of friendship you slow down and doubt the person you are communicating with and you notice more that you start to clash with each other because the boundaries has become so different in the eye of a person wanting you to be someone else?

What happen when that person wants to change you but you don’t feel like changing to be like their ex relationship?

What happens when you want to change the person who wants to change you but choose not to do it?

It doesn’t become a fair game because in a friendship or relationship it should be all balance no one wins all the time and no one loses as well.

In every friendship or relationship it should be equal and sometime people want to control you but to them it is not what they call control just looking out for you making sure you don’t fall or to make a better imagine out of you.

You wonder if they are really doing it for you or just for themselves to be someone who they use to be with or to be like their ex-relationships.

Highlight:

• Never sell yourself short tell that person how you feel let them know in person or write a letter or email to them so they can read it over and over again until it sticks in their brain that you are not a person who they can change because they feel like it.

• Tell them what you feel deep inside to set closure and you can move on and pass that stage of friendship or the relationship you’re in sometimes people don’t know what they are doing because they are so use to doing it to their past relationship.

• Stop people repeating themselves over and over again so they don’t become the person they have become.

• The person cannot accept who you have become that person is not worth to hold on too.

• He/she can’t accept who you are not worth being friends with them or being in a relationship with them there are a lot of people to meet and there are more fishes to catch that will like you the way you are no matter what.